This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama. This month our participants have reported on weeklong trials to make their lives a little greener. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.
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Our cupboards are full... but there's nothing to eat!
How often have you experienced this feeling? Your house might be full of food, but you just can't think what to make for dinner. It's as though everything we have put in our storecupboards and freezers suddenly becomes invisible.
I am a notorious stock piler - I have previously on this blog shared that I have a shop in my cupboard. I hate to run out of anything. I like to be able to cook anything from sushi and ramen to an Italian bean feast to a key lime pie at the drop of a hat. When I see it written there it seems a little ridiculous. I also have minor anxieties about "what ifs": what if we have friends over and there's nothing to rustle up a quick lunch? What if we're all sick and can't face going out to get food? What if we are flooded in or there is an oil crisis and suddenly we can't get to the shops for a week, or two? I believe strongly in family resilience... but has it gone too far? Am I officially a hoarder?
You see, what I have noticed this year is that we are throwing away food: because I've bought too much, because the kids don't like it, because the bulk-bought stuff had too short a shelf life. And if I'm being really honest, because I cook a whole lot less than I used to and aspire to - partly due to major child fussiness and partly my exhaustion.
So when this challenge came up, the "do no food shopping for a week and live off what you already have" idea was just what the doctor ordered. It was a good final hurrah to the Year of Enough of 2011, and a welcoming of 2012 Year of Abundance. And the biggest part of abundance is recognising the wealth you already have, and using and being grateful for it, rather than harking after more and more.
It was Christmas week, the time of plenty, I had done a large shop a week before, so this was hardly going to be a challenge... I thought! Just a simplification of my life. And so it has been a time of conscious consumption, of using what we already have. And I wanted to report that I haven't bought anything since... but that would not be true.
You see, I've bought milk, and bread, lots of bread...
I fully intended to make the bread myself. Because I always intend to. I can make a mean brown soda loaf. And we have a bread maker - how unchallenging is that. And yet, even this week, when I have committed to not buying anything, even though I love homemade bread so much more, even though it is so much healthier and cheaper for us, even though it has a timer setting so it can bake overnight and we can wake up to freshly baked bread - I HAVE NOT BAKED A SINGLE LOAF. (OK, since submitting this piece I saw the error of my ways and baked 3 delicious brown soda loaves!)
And you know why - because to me, baking bread is one of my aspirations - which also feels like the straw that would break this camel's back.
Bread is what my children eat most of during the day. I am SO tired of most of what I make for them being rejected that if I don't have the reliable staple of crap white bought bread that I KNOW they will eat, and I have hungry, cranky children roaming the plains... the results don't bear thinking about!
And also I realise it breaks my sacred (and rather slovenly rule) of not entering the kitchen, where I spend a lot of each day, after dinner, to set up the blasted machine, it feels like an extra tie to housewifeliness.
So there we have it. We have eaten lots of tins of beans and tomatoes, we have made a dent in the frozen meat. Have turned festering veggies into delicious soup. Spent almost no money... But not a green leafy vegetable has passed our lips, nor a loaf been baked - and the tragic thing is our store cupboard and freezer look almost untouched.
I think we shall carry on for another couple of weeks - I might even get over the whole bread thang and just BAKE! We can manage it fine, after a few kid staples are bought. And some brocolli. I miss my brocolli.
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Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:
- Make your own moisturizer! — Megan at boho mama whips up a winter skin-friendly moisturizer.
- Cold Water Only — Brittany at The Pistachio Project talks about how you do not need hot water to wash laundry.
- Family Cloth... Really?? — After lots of forethought and consideration, Momma Jorje finally decides to take the plunge with family cloth.
- Reduce, Reuse, Recycle : 5-5-5 Things A Day — Luschka from Diary of a First Child writes about decluttering her home in an attempt to create a gentler living space. She takes on a new project where she sets a goal of reducing, reusing and recycling every day.
- Pros and cons of family cloth — Lauren at Hobo Mama would love to continue replacing paper products with family cloth … if she could only get over how damp she feels.
- Craftily Parenting — Kellie at Our Mindful Life finds that crafting makes her a better parent.
- Changes — Laura at Pug in the Kitchen couldn't choose just one area to experiment with, so she wrote a long post about all the fun changes initiated in her life!
- Life without Internet: Not all it's Cracked up to Be — Adrienne at Mommying My Way tries to go a week without the Internet, only to realize a healthy dose of Internet usage really helps keep this stay-at-home mom connected.
- My Progression to Raw Milk — Kerry at City Kids Homeschooling shares her natural parenting progression all the way to trying raw milk.
- mama's new little friend. — Sarah at Bitty Bird tries a menstrual cup to "green her period," and is pleasantly surprised when she falls in love with the product!
- Before you throw it out, try homemade laundry soap! — Jennifer at Practical OH Mommy shows visual proof that homemade laundry soap is cheaper, easier, and works better than the store-bought chemicals!
- Oil, Oil, No Toil, No Trouble — K from Very Simple Secret talks about her foray into the oil-cleansing method.
- I Need a Hobby — Amanda at Let's Take the Metro couldn't decide which experiment to run, so she did them all.
- 7 days of macrobiotics for a balanced family — The Stones make a [successful] attempt to release the "holiday junking" with 7 days of macrobiotic meals to balance their bodies and souls. Elisabeth at Manic Mrs. Stone includes an explanation of macrobiotics.
- Chemical Free Beauty Challenge — Jenn at Monkey Butt Junction turned to natural alternatives for her daily beauty and cleaning routine, with great results.
- Greening my Armpits!? My Green Resolution — Shannon at The Artful Mama talks about how she decided to give up her traditional antiperspirant and make the switch over to crystal deodorants and definitely isn't looking back!
- Going Raw (for a while) — Jenny at Chronicles of a Nursing Mom shares her family's experience with raw food.
- Do we get to eat gluten today? — Sheila at A Gift Universe has been trying to figure out if her son does better with or without gluten in his diet … but it's really hard to tell for sure.
- Hippies Can Smell and Look Fabulous Too! — Arpita of Up, Down And Natural details her experience of going shampoo-free and overhauling her cosmetics to find the balance between feeling beautifully fabulous and honoring her inner hippie.
- Our cupboards are full...but there's nothing to eat — Lucy at Dreaming Aloud takes on the challenge of chomping through the contents of her storecupboard rather than going shopping — but there's something that she just can't bring herself to do …
- Elimination Experiment 3.0 — MudpieMama recounts the messy adventures of her baby daughter trying to be diaper free.
- Family Cloth Trial — Amyables at Toddler in Tow talks about making and using family cloth wipes in the bathroom for the first time.
- Taking a Hiatus — Amy at Peace 4 Parents shares how her experience of much less internet interaction affected her family and how it will change her approach in the future.
- Trying Out the Menstrual Cup — Lindsey at an unschooling adventure ditches the tampons and gives menstrual cups a try.
- Managing Food Waste in Our Home — Tired of the holiday waste, Robbie at Going Green Mama takes a weeklong focus on reducing food waste in her home, and learns some lessons that can take her through the new year.
- Going Offline, Cloth Tissues, and Simplicity — Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama muses over her time away from blogging and social networking. In addition, she shares her newfound love of cloth tissues and simplicity.
- The Oil Cleansing Method — Erica at ChildOrganics explores an easy, organic and natural way to tackle skin care.
- Experiments in Natural Family Living - Natural Toys! — Lani at Boobie Time enjoys the silence of natural toys and being more present with her son.
- Discovering a New City and Organic Foods — Amy at A Secure Base describes her family's switch to and search for organic foods for one week.
- My Experiment in Homemade Bread — Crunchy Con Mommy tried — and loved — baking her own homemade bread.
- Menu Planning: Stop the Excuses — Gaby at Tmuffin stopped the excuses and started planning her weekly meals, drastically cutting her grocery budget and stress level and improving the quality of foods she fed her family.
- My First Menstrual Cup — Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children was pleasantly surprised with her first experience using a menstrual cup.
- My Natural Beauty Regime — Christine at African Babies Don’t Cry shares the results of banishing cleanser and soaps from her bathroom, as well as a couple of natural homemade recipes that have worked well on her skin.
- Unplugging and Creating a Rhythm: Our Experiment in Natural Family Living — Dionna at Code Name: Mama focused less on gadgets and spent more time with her family to create a healthy rhythm for the new year.
- Experiments in Natural Family Living: 5 First Steps Toward Preparing for a Natural Birth — Charise at I Thought I Knew Mama discusses how she tackled the pressing matter of how to begin preparing for a natural birth.
- All you need is...vinegar! — Kristen at My Semi-Crunchy Life learns that one household product can replace all the cleaners in her cabinet.
- Nope Nada Ixnay Negative Pass Decline — Zoie at TouchstoneZ finds out what shakes loose if she says, "YES!!" to anything anyone asks of her over the space of 10 days.
- Reducing our exposure to toxins found in plastics — Syenna at Gently Parenting Twins throws out the melamine and BPA plastics which have been hanging around the kitchen for too long.
- Duh! — Kat at Loving {Almost} Every Moment shares how she began the process of helping her 2-year-old son stop physically acting out.
- Experiments in Natural Parenting: Starting, Stopping, and Gaining Perspective — Melissa at Vibrant Wanderings explains how pregnancy brain interfered with her attempts to complete an experiment, but how she gained some interesting perspective as she started and stopped several.
- From Experiment to Lifestyle — Abbie at Farmer's Daughter shares her experience avoiding processed foods for a month, and deciding to make it a permanent lifestyle change.
- From Disposable Paper to Reusable Cloth – AGAIN! — Terri at Child of the Nature Isle stops flushing trees down the toilet and switches to the softest ever butt-wiping material: cloth.
- Extra! Extra! Water Heater Turned Down, Mom Doesn't Notice! — Thomasin at Propson Palingenesis finds an energy-saving experiment that's so easy she didn't even realize it was happening.
- Worm Tea — CatholicMommy isn't sure how successful her worm bin will be, but she's having fun anyway.
- Miles to Go ... — Rachael at The Variegated Life learns that when it comes to sleep debt, she's in real deep.
- My Month With Water Kefir — Paige at Baby Dust Diaries experiments with a new fermented probiotic drink homemade in her own kitchen.
- OMG Mom is Home... All Day Everyday: A Week-Long Experiment in Connecting — What a difference a week makes! Ana at Pandamoly is afforded a week off from work and takes the chance to reconnect and reattach with her 16-month-old son through an experiment in simply being there.
- Creating Healthy Family Recipes — Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now shares her experiment with healthy, gluten-free recipes and a chocolate muffin recipe that was created during the experiment.
- Adventures in Alternative Haircare: No 'Poo — This guest post at Natural Parents Network from Amy at Anktangle chronicles a months-long journey into the world of no 'poo.
- My Experiment in Natural Family Living: Natural Family Planning — Birth control options are seriously limited for those of us trying to live a little closer to the earth, so Mama Psalmist experiments with natural family planning.
So intersting, I'm sure we are the same although I probably don't have much in store come to think of it. I lvoe what you wrote about abundance is mostly about recognising it...so true and it makes me really think. love and hugs x x
ReplyDeleteI'm glad I'm not the only one who has a bread-eating child. Ah, well!
ReplyDeleteWe've done this same challenge several times, and it's always interesting what you end up eating as you get down to the dregs. (I think we have a smaller food storage space than you do, so the dregs come more quickly around here!)
I think I pick up on the peripherals on many blogs - I might well miss the main points entirely because something in the corner caught my eye. For this post, I like your rule about not entering the kitchen after dinner. I think that's an awesome rule. I have a similar rule - it's that I can't bring work into the bedroom. This was especially important when I was teaching in a classroom. Lesson plans in the bedroom? Ooooo - bad bad bad karma. I shall adopt your kitchen rule.
ReplyDeleteIsn't it funny, it would be broccoli I'd miss too. I didn't think to enter my 'no spend' post into the carnival, but I set it up on Jan first. I AM buying fresh fruit and veg ( I would surely growl without broccoli), but most stuff is coming from the cupboards and freezer. It's strangely satisfying, I'm saving a LOT of money and the slovenly part of me is enjoying eating from tins :)
ReplyDeleteMmmmm but homemade bread is SO yummy! Could you turn it into a mama/children project? At any rate - I'm inspired, I want to do this too! I got into the habit of filling the freezer while I was pregnant, now I need to empty it back out! ;)
ReplyDeleteDo you know about Artisan Bread in Five Minutes a Day and Healthy Bread in Five Minutes a Day? Google them. It is a super, duper easy way to bake bread. You keep the dough in your fridge, so you see it and it keeps you going, rather than having to think about the fuss of pulling out all the ingredients each time you want a loaf. My husband bakes this bread almost everyday and my 20 month old daughters love all the different recipes.
ReplyDeleteI often look at my pantry and say - well, I have almost everything I need to cook THIS and almost everything I need to cook THAT. . . my solution to that situation is to call up one of my neighbors and see if their family has my missing ingredient and wants to come over for dinner :)
ReplyDeleteIn my house it's completely the other way around! We have a tiny kitchen with almost no cupboard space, so we have to go food shopping almost every other day... it's a bind! But I have the benefit of deciding what we'll eat for the next two days and just buying what we need, with almost no waste. But even I end up with left-overs like bags of rice, pasta, lentils, etc taking up cupboard space and sitting there unused for an age until I feel like cooking something using them. I have to try to make the effort to plan our meals around what we already have in the cupboard to make some room! Ha ha.
ReplyDeleteI still have a Christmas pudding from Christmas 2010 waiting on our store cupboard shelf! We'll get round to eating it one of these days..... Along with the tin of mushy peas, carnationilk and tinned mandarins we won in a raffle last year!!!
ReplyDeleteOnce again'I hear ya!' I know my cupboards are full of lentils, rice, noodles, things I know I can make meals outof but I open them and go 'nah, I wanted to make this or that not that' but funnily enough, first week of jan I was like 'enough already those lentils will make a mean dahl' and you know what ... it was the best ever. So I'm with you on this one, thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteAnd the bread thang ... my aspirations are the same, I go through phases though and currently we are in a shitty shop bought bread phase because ... well ... because. Much love x
It's nice to know someone else thinks f the what ifs! We live at the top of a Swiss mountain so for winter I felt compelled to stock up on alot of stuff just to be safe. I reorganized the pantry recently and made a list so I don't double or triplicate when shopping now! Great post! Enjoy your bread!
ReplyDeleteThis is just wonderful! I really enjoyed how honest and real you are! I know it's definitely tough to really stick out those challenges that you know you 'should' do! I have always wanted to bake my own bread!! Especially since Hubs only eats fresh baked bread, but always pays for the fancy bakery stuff. I'd love to see if I could save us some dough by baking our own! ;)
ReplyDeleteThank you all for your wonderful contributions. I was offline celebrating my new-born paperback book! What a proud new mama I am!
ReplyDeleteSAndra - thank you for that, will follow up that link, ti sounds like a great solution.
Amy, I love your idea. Unfortunately with 3 little ones under 7 an invite to our house for dinner is not much fun for the guests!!! After about 10 minutes they get a far distant traumatised look in their eyes- if they don't have kids you can see them making a mental note to ensure their contraceptives are working, and if they have had kids they are thinking, Oh God, I'm SO glad we don't have little ones any more!
Thanks for the Tweet out Arpita
MMM.... I'd love to hear more about your book, now I'm curious! :) On topic, though, I can relate. I used to buy in bulk, a lot. For similar reasons. I like to be prepared. I enjoyed reading about your journey... the ups, downs, baking bread before you posted and choosing to continue on a bit for fun.
ReplyDeleteThen reality hit and I realized I can't be prepared for *everything*. SO we have a bin of emergency food - beans, rice, water, etc. And we have stuff that we use up regularly.
Late last summer we went on a trip for a month and emptied out everything. Every last thing. Even gave away what was in the freezer that we didn't eat up. I decided when we returned to only buy enough for 1-3 days for a while just to see how it would feel. It was nice to see in the fridge. :)
Now we do have some staples (flour, spices, etc.) on hand, but work to make sure our food is moving so it stays fresh. Have fun figuring out what works for you!
this is so totally the experience i've heard from every mama who does the canning/hoarding/stockpiling food thing. there is definitely a time to put up, but then there is a time to dig in!!! (and december/january is THE time!) i love the feeling of going "shopping" in the pantry (well i don't have one but the makeshift way i have things stored all around my house sort of all together makes a pantry). i like to think of it in terms of seasons- i want my chest freezer empty and defrosting in may so i can focus on the new fresh greens... i buy sacks of dry goods in the fall when they're freshly harvested and i know we're about to be eating more baked things, but then i try to have them well used up by spring when new potatoes are abundant... and i support you 100% in not baking bread out of duty... i've got this thing about bread, you are putting your very skin cells in the stuff (less so with bread machine but still... your energy goes into the making) and yeah i will only do it when i am feeling ready to put nourishing peaceful vibes into that dough. :)oh and one more strategy i like to follow is- eat the best, most favorite things first! that way, you always get to go into the cupboard and choose your favorite, of whatever is left. so you're always eating the best! don't hoard the good stuff. :)
ReplyDeleteHey mb - totally ALWAYS the good stuff first!
ReplyDeleteWe have some particular staple foods we go through... and they are not the healthiest choices. I eat PB&J at least once nearly every day. I basically gave up cooking after my 1st trimester. I was having to eat too often and got burned out. I really need to take it back up, though! I do have some food things stored and yeah, if I used them I'd have more room! Lots of reasons to do THIS challenge. I'm glad you're seeing some benefit, even if it didn't go perfectly.
ReplyDeleteI am just now doing the same thing--cleaning out my pantry and freezer. Since I started menu planning, I've thrown out so much less food than I used to. And I didn't realize how much flippin RICE I have in my pantry. I do miss the greens, too, although I have some half-grown lettuce, kale, and arugula in my garden that kind of stopped growing once the weather got so cold. So I can pick at that. I'm excited to pick away and be able to start fresh.
ReplyDeleteBut tell me: How did I end up with not one, but TWO boxes of powdered mashed potatoes? And what the heck am I going to do with them?