Today I have a guest post over at Dulce de Leche as part of her wonderful sex education series.
Have you ever wondered how you were going to do “the talk” about “the
birds and the bees”. What to say and how, and of course when and how
much? We know it’s important that children learn about sex and
relationships at home, but how to do it without toe curling
embarrassment on both sides?
Few of us have good examples from our own
childhood to follow and we’re aware that if we don’t broach the subject
it will be left in the less than capable hands of peers and the media.
Nowadays, due to living in such an over-sexualized, titillated culture,
the job of “the talk” is not to generally explain anatomy or mechanics,
as it was in the past. Contraception and disease are now part of the
school curriculum, where kids are told all the reasons not to have sex,
to be careful, to watch out for predators. But perhaps the most
important parts, the reason why we all want to “do it”, the emotional,
hormonal and very human relational aspects of sex are what we can really
provide a solid grounding in at home. This is something we are all
experienced in. We certainly don’t have all the answers, but we can show
how we ourselves try to navigate these crucial paths. Home is where we
can make the connections between love and sex, between bodies and
feelings, between children and sex. The reason we often struggle with
Sex is because we isolate it from its surroundings, we take it out of
relationship. Talking about sex is not just explaining reproduction.
Sexual education involves learning about our bodies, feelings of love,
affection and attraction, companionship, passion, art, the dynamics of
interpersonal relationships, self-esteem etc: sex is not just something
that happens in bedrooms, its roots are in all aspects of our lives and
Head over to Dulce de Leche to read the rest.