tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935975561680117519.post5520324630727149669..comments2024-01-01T08:07:16.443+00:00Comments on Dreaming aloud: Not Normal (otherwise known as Mothering with Mental Illness)Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935975561680117519.post-90659039672427551182013-08-24T10:40:13.828+01:002013-08-24T10:40:13.828+01:00From one bat shit gaga loopy not normal to another...From one bat shit gaga loopy not normal to another, hello! Hadn't come across you before, thanks for introducing yourself and for being so wonderfully honest. Sitting in a bubble with pinterest and a pen...... Yup, I know that one! Looking forward to reading more x Sunnyscatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16830532495678552230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935975561680117519.post-89378437856651462722013-08-24T10:40:05.515+01:002013-08-24T10:40:05.515+01:00From one bat shit gaga loopy not normal to another...From one bat shit gaga loopy not normal to another, hello! Hadn't come across you before, thanks for introducing yourself and for being so wonderfully honest. Sitting in a bubble with pinterest and a pen...... Yup, I know that one! Looking forward to reading more x Sunnyscatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16830532495678552230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935975561680117519.post-86098417047364575932013-08-21T00:07:16.475+01:002013-08-21T00:07:16.475+01:00Lucy, all I can say is that you are not alone on t...Lucy, all I can say is that you are not alone on this one..... I am starting to believe there are more "not normal" people out there that I ever imagined. And you know what?! For what I can see of them, they are AWESOME!!!! Despite the illness and all!!! No-one out there is perfect.... and every genius and inventor has not been a "normal" person either. You rock!! Love from another "not very normal" mama xxxxxxxxTimisaphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13272257232938789738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935975561680117519.post-74301373754858437252013-08-20T08:46:38.939+01:002013-08-20T08:46:38.939+01:00Thanks, Amanda xThanks, Amanda xAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08664045557725853106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935975561680117519.post-45506698677146028782013-08-20T08:46:09.382+01:002013-08-20T08:46:09.382+01:00Thanks Tisme, yes it was supposed to be funny as w...Thanks Tisme, yes it was supposed to be funny as well, I made myself laugh too writing and reading it, was surprised more people didn't pick up on it - I think most people picked up the anger and sad more...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08664045557725853106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935975561680117519.post-127319326062769772013-08-20T08:43:52.297+01:002013-08-20T08:43:52.297+01:00What wisdom! And what strength of expression - ba...What wisdom! And what strength of expression - bat shit gaga loopy, love it!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08664045557725853106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935975561680117519.post-54951121527481506922013-08-20T08:42:25.041+01:002013-08-20T08:42:25.041+01:00Thanks, Dominee, glowing here. What a strong, brav...Thanks, Dominee, glowing here. What a strong, brave decision to make. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08664045557725853106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935975561680117519.post-70637936599900403452013-08-20T02:19:37.898+01:002013-08-20T02:19:37.898+01:00You made me laugh. I'm not sure if it was you...You made me laugh. I'm not sure if it was your intention to be funny but you are. Being not normal is hard. Being dependent on tablets to try to maintain some form of normal behaviour in my not normal life. But, it is my normal..in a not normal way. I have in recent years realised that 'normal' actually is a perception. We all have what it normal for us. Even with our not normalness. Being not normal is therefore normal, right? Normal being what is mostly constant in our lives. Finding out I was not normal actually has given me the freedom to stop trying to be normal - the normal that is defined by others as that's their normal. I have my own normal. And you do too. Really, really enjoyed reading this. I like how you write about us not normals....makes it feel....normal..;-)<br />tismehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03071301662876007299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935975561680117519.post-29036556229048310092013-08-17T08:09:14.699+01:002013-08-17T08:09:14.699+01:00Maybe your kids are actually a gift to keep you fr...Maybe your kids are actually a gift to keep you from going completely totally bat shit gaga loopy? When I read your dreaming aloud columns, I feel the soulful earnest loving connected rhythmic thread of your mama being weaving love and magic. But when dark and strange things that happen to you in your past are still there, how can they not eat at you and make you feel mad and bad and hurt? It is not so terribly surprising. Don't beat yourself up so much darling when you didn't ask for the headfucky stuff to happen to you or to drive you a bit gaga. Be more loving to yourself. You are a good person, you are the umbilical nurturer to your children, your time will come for frolicks and freedom and wildness again, for now, talk it all out, let your grief out, keep finding ways to comfort and nurture your soul in a way that really helps. Many of us are survivors of parents who themselves were traumatized in some way and damaged. Keep looking for ways to break the cycle, never give up on that - you don't have to continue in that way, you can break out of it and walk a different path - I believe in you. Lots of love dearest xxxxxMotherfunkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10809370449833738968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935975561680117519.post-62890338526781967162013-08-16T23:14:44.870+01:002013-08-16T23:14:44.870+01:00I really feel for you Lucy! X It's not easy be...I really feel for you Lucy! X It's not easy being a Mama in the best of circumstances but with added complexities - especially those that mess up emotions - it's really tough! I can appreciate your thoughts that you would have chosen not to have children, but I like the idea that our children chose us! :-D x Love and support to you, Amanda xxAmandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04467228858663277353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935975561680117519.post-84675292393652791672013-08-16T14:52:14.527+01:002013-08-16T14:52:14.527+01:00I really really love this and adore you. I've ...I really really love this and adore you. I've made the decision not to have children because of my not normalness. To function I have to be selfish, I have to have quiet, and naps, and sleep ins, and hours spent reading. The urge to try to be "normal", to try to have a family, wanders about every now and then, but for me, the decision not to have kids feels right.<br />I'm sorry that you came to it too late to have that, but I applaud you for being brave and honest and your awareness of self. <br />You're pretty awesome. Domineehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03184535008851228367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935975561680117519.post-59209006047383249572013-08-16T07:31:14.179+01:002013-08-16T07:31:14.179+01:00Thank you, Joanna xxThank you, Joanna xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08664045557725853106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935975561680117519.post-88423332070267237422013-08-16T07:30:07.884+01:002013-08-16T07:30:07.884+01:00Thx Isla xThx Isla xAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08664045557725853106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935975561680117519.post-35866063189127589272013-08-16T07:29:39.915+01:002013-08-16T07:29:39.915+01:00:)
:)<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08664045557725853106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935975561680117519.post-15995555865322950852013-08-15T22:36:18.293+01:002013-08-15T22:36:18.293+01:00I'm not normal eitherI'm not normal either RosieKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02337670107926923777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935975561680117519.post-10485222496621023882013-08-15T22:24:26.604+01:002013-08-15T22:24:26.604+01:00From the daughter of a "not normal mother&quo...From the daughter of a "not normal mother" Normal is never as it seems there is no real blueprint : ) even those with apparent perfect "normal" lives. <br />As a mother now myself, i sometimes burst pride with how well she did cope with three of us ( i have 2 sisters) an absent military father and her "not normalness" yes my childhood was full of upheaval and sadness, but there was also so much beauty and love... perfectly normal mothers aren't always so great... be yourself. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14279801082829802760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935975561680117519.post-61202036079703588502013-08-15T20:27:54.855+01:002013-08-15T20:27:54.855+01:00*sprinkles fairy dust*.....I had severe post-natal...*sprinkles fairy dust*.....I had severe post-natal depression after each of my children were born, I found both pregnancies traumatic. I am normal. Whatever diagnosis you've got I hope you will try to look to the future and give yourself a break. You can do this, you have to.<br /> And if your fears that one of your children might develop the same "not normal"ness in the future you'll be able to look them in the eye and tell them they can manage just like you did. I honestly believe you are more than able.Joanna O'Sullivanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01078527482996513864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935975561680117519.post-38326257629919004502013-08-15T20:04:27.231+01:002013-08-15T20:04:27.231+01:00Thx Loo, never come across it before, will check i...Thx Loo, never come across it before, will check it out. XAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08664045557725853106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935975561680117519.post-2846132557604671132013-08-15T20:03:39.232+01:002013-08-15T20:03:39.232+01:00Thanks x
Thanks x<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08664045557725853106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935975561680117519.post-19285988036045559002013-08-15T19:41:56.726+01:002013-08-15T19:41:56.726+01:00I love this. I hate that you feel like this but I ...I love this. I hate that you feel like this but I love this post.<br />Big love xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935975561680117519.post-710827304841891732013-08-15T18:58:51.295+01:002013-08-15T18:58:51.295+01:00http://matthewjohnstone.com.au/courses/i-had-a-bla...http://matthewjohnstone.com.au/courses/i-had-a-black-dog/<br /><br />The link above is for a book I bought for my nephew to try and help him with my sisters depression might be worth having a look.<br />Love Loo xxLootytoothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01932716807077234737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935975561680117519.post-20940712024591843422013-08-15T18:07:29.365+01:002013-08-15T18:07:29.365+01:00this rings with me... as you had suspected... But ...this rings with me... as you had suspected... But I also agree with the comment of your not normal friend that if being 'normal' means you find this sick place an ok world to live in... the I prefer not being normal<br />I also can't deal with reality on many many occasions. Care to start a colony somewhere (without the enslaving etc obviously)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06773235393702832137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935975561680117519.post-4074392951192979162013-08-15T17:40:26.487+01:002013-08-15T17:40:26.487+01:00Thanks M. Publically paid midwife. Still makes me ...Thanks M. Publically paid midwife. Still makes me mad...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08664045557725853106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8935975561680117519.post-22473338516695948542013-08-15T17:38:39.321+01:002013-08-15T17:38:39.321+01:00Oh, honey. This is strong. You are amazing. You ar...Oh, honey. This is strong. You are amazing. You are making a change and a difference by talking about it and being open, and you are aware and you are trying. That's worth a lot.<br /><br />What the fuck was that woman talking about with the golden cloak nonsense, though? What sort of answer is that?Maudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16597977344296682203noreply@blogger.com